Writing your own wedding vows for beginners

Writing your own wedding vows can be an extremely daunting task, but it can also be one of the most meaningful and memorable parts of your wedding ceremony. If you don’t know where to start writing your own vows, this guide will provide some helpful tips and inspiration.

Your relationship

Think about your relationship before you put pen to paper. Pick out what makes your relationship special and unique, and what you love and appreciate most about your partner. This is a great place to start when reflecting on your relationship and helps you remember stories you may want to share.

Decide on a style

What is the tone you want to set with your wedding vows? This may come naturally to you, especially if you are a humorous, or sentimental person. Do you want your vows to be a certain way? Whether serious, romantic, funny, or light-hearted, knowing how you want to approach them will help in knowing what stories to tell/words to use.

Chat with your partner

While the vows are usually kept as a surprise for your wedding day, make sure you are checking in with your partner throughout the process. This will allow you to write vows that carry the same tone, have the same length, and include (or avoid) certain phrasings!

Wedding Vow Tips from a Celebrant

Be inspired

Research other vows that people have written and shared online, or check out some vow templates to give you somewhere to start. However, while you can take inspiration from other people’s structure, keep true to yourself, and how you feel about your partner.

I love you

Don’t forget to include these three little words. This may seem like an obvious tip, but sometimes you can get so caught up writing your vows that you forget this simple but beautiful phrase. Additionally, don’t forget any promises you wish to make to your partner.

Practice makes perfect

Practice your vows out loud to get an idea of the tone, rhythm, and length of your personalised vows. It is well worth practising in front of friends or family too! Not only will this be a good dry run for the big day, but you can see if your words are getting the reaction you imagined.

In conclusion, writing your own wedding vows can be a beautiful and intimate way to express your love and commitment to your partner. They set the tone for your marriage while giving you something entirely individual to look back on.


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