7 Ways to honour a lost loved one on your wedding day

Your wedding day is one of the most important days of your life and one that very much brings your lost loved ones to the forefront of your mind. You might be considering honouring them on your wedding day, but how? We have collected some options, and perhaps one might feel right to you.

Photo Magic

Helen and Noel of H N Photography have helped many brides and grooms with remembering a lost loved one. One particularly special way they have done this was to include them in the photos:

“S’s dad was sadly not with her for her special day. During our meetings, it was abundantly clear just how much he had meant to her. Since childhood, her one dream had always been to come down the stairs at home and see her dad waiting for her. Although this could not happen on the wedding day, we did our best to give her a vision of that dream.”

H N Photography

Photo Credit: H N Photography

Stitched tribute

Your wedding outfits are a wonderful place to consider including a tribute to a loved one. You could have their initials, or even a message sewn into your wedding outfit, either for others to see, or hidden for just you. Additionally, you could look to wear something of theirs for your wedding day, be it a shirt, scarf, or your wedding dress!
A further option some people choose is to have their monogram, or a personal message/quote sewn or embroidered onto your veil.

Light a candle

Lighting a candle in memory of a loved one is deeply reflective and spiritual, and a staple in quite a few religious teachings.

“N and L chose to remember loved ones during their ceremony by lighting a candle. They had their wedding ceremony in Cuba with immediate family and friends and then had a celebrant led ceremony back home with everyone close to them. A standard registrar wedding in this country will often not allow this so if you want to do something like this you may want to consider having a very simple registry office wedding with just your witnesses to cover the legalities and then follow it with a personalised celebrant led ceremony.”

H N Photography

Photo Credit: H N Photography

favourite flower/perfume

You don’t have to have your option outwardly noticeable if you would prefer not to, something as simple as wearing the perfume you associate with your lost loved one can be powerful. Another option is to use a flower that reminds you of your missing loved one, was their favourite flower, or the flower they used on their wedding day!

Your wedding day is one of the most important days of your life and one that very much brings your lost loved ones to the forefront of your mind. You might be considering honouring them on your wedding day, but how? We have collected some options, and perhaps one might feel right to you.

Photo Magic

Helen and Noel of H N Photography have helped many brides and grooms with remembering a lost loved one. One particularly special way they have done this was to include them in the photos:

“S’s dad was sadly not with her for her special day. During our meetings, it was abundantly clear just how much he had meant to her. Since childhood, her one dream had always been to come down the stairs at home and see her dad waiting for her. Although this could not happen on the wedding day, we did our best to give her a vision of that dream.”

H N Photography

Photo Credit: H N Photography

Stitched tribute

Your wedding outfits are a wonderful place to consider including a tribute to a loved one. You could have their initials, or even a message sewn into your wedding outfit, either for others to see, or hidden for just you. Additionally, you could look to wear something of theirs for your wedding day, be it a shirt, scarf, or your wedding dress!
A further option some people choose is to have their monogram, or a personal message/quote sewn or embroidered onto your veil.

Light a candle

Lighting a candle in memory of a loved one is deeply reflective and spiritual, and a staple in quite a few religious teachings.

“N and L chose to remember loved ones during their ceremony by lighting a candle. They had their wedding ceremony in Cuba with immediate family and friends and then had a celebrant led ceremony back home with everyone close to them. A standard registrar wedding in this country will often not allow this so if you want to do something like this you may want to consider having a very simple registry office wedding with just your witnesses to cover the legalities and then follow it with a personalised celebrant led ceremony.”

H N Photography

Photo Credit: H N Photography

favourite flower/perfume

You don’t have to have your option outwardly noticeable if you would prefer not to, something as simple as wearing the perfume you associate with your lost loved one can be powerful. Another option is to use a flower that reminds you of your missing loved one, was their favourite flower, or the flower they used on their wedding day!

Jewellery or cufflinks

Jewellery, cufflinks and precious stones are often treated as heirlooms, which makes them the perfect choice for your wedding day, whether you wear them as is, or if you have a bespoke piece created.

“On her wedding day, a feather floated down in front of our bride as she was leaving the house. Many believe that if a feather crosses your path then it’s your angel telling you that your loved ones who are in heaven are safe and well. The bride immediately added it to the locket containing her lucky sixpence.”

H N Photography

Photo Credit: H N Photography

reading

Dedicate a reading, poem, song lyric or quote to that person you miss, this allows all your guests to have a moment to remember them along side you. If you are doing this with your speeches, ask your guests to raise a glass in their memory.

music

Dan from JN Sounds has worked at a great many weddings providing music and entertainment:

“Music is really powerful at stirring emotions, meaning couples will either choose a song that reminds them of someone no longer with them or will avoid those songs entirely. I think that if you would like to honour someone with a song, the evening party could be the best moment, as it works as a celebration of their life. During my planning process, I always give couples the opportunity to send me a do not play list, so this is the perfect place to add any songs that might remind them of a passed loved one, or songs that has been played at funerals.”

JN Sounds

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